Aging in America

Aging in America

The Importance of Social Supports: Family, Friends, Neighbors, and Communities

"If you associate enough with older people who do enjoy their lives, who are not stored away in any golden ghettos, you will gain a sense of continuity and of the possibility for a full life." (Quote by - Margaret Mead) 


Concepts:
The Convoy Model
This link outlines the concept of the social convoy model. 
http://adultdevelopmenttheories.pbworks.com/w/page/1422281/The-Convoy-Model
How Multigenerational Families Live Under One Roof
Especially in today's society, families are learning and coping to live under the same roof. According to our book, multigenerational families have grown to almost sixty percent. This provides a great support system, having all of your family so close. 
http://www.lhj.com/relationships/family/raising-kids/multigenerational-households/
Gay and Lesbian Aging
Many gay and lesbian couples tend to remain silent about their sexual orientation. There are many factors that are related between heterosexual and homosexual relationships. Many thought that if an elder was gay or lesbian, they were depressed, isolated, or sexless. These all are not true. 
http://www.webster.edu/~woolflm/oldergay.html




Multi generational Families living under the same roof

It has come to a point to where many families are living under the same roof. They are even creating communities for multigenerational families. 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Paztw0QG6sk


     I ended up choosing this chapter because I think that family, friends, and community support is very important to have when you grow older. It is what keeps you going. I know that without my family now, I would be no where; I can't even imagine not having a family when I am older. 
     In today's society, many more families are starting to live under the same roof. This is not only because of the support aspect, but because of the economic downfall that the U.S. has been experiencing. This is a great way to save money for those families and is also a great support system because there is always somebody there. 






Definitions:
Social networks-the interrelationships and interactions among individuals that affect the flow of resources and support. 
Intergenerational stake hypothesis- pattern whereby the older generation tends to be more invested in future generations around transmission of values and resources.
skipped-generation household- where the parent generation is absent.
empty nest-normative for middle-aged parents when adult children leave home for college or employment.
custodial grandparents-grandparents who have legal custody of their grandchildren when adult children are unable to provide adequate care. 
intimacy at a distance-strong emotional ties among family members even though they do not live near each other. 
blended families-families whose membership comprise blood and non-blood relationships through divorce or remarriage.
formal kinship care- placement of children with relatives by the state child foster care.
natural helpers- people who assist others because of their concern, interest, and innate understanding.
reciprocal change- sharing resources and assistance among individuals



Meeting My New Grandma

That lady I met in the nursing home,
she looked so much like Grandma.
I thought it was her for a while,
but then she turned around and wasn’t wearing a smile.

Mom pulled her over
and said she was Grandma.
How could this be?
My grandma would never ignore me.

She did look a lot like her,
and dress like her too.
But this is not the Grandma I once knew,
This is not Grandma, what mom said can’t be true.

This Grandma was talking and making no sense;
she had tears and her eyes seemed so sad.
This is some other girls Grandma, not mine.
My Grandma is healthy and happy and fine.

Mom was talking to the nurse,
about a disease call Alzheimer’s.
That doesn’t have a cure,
and Grandma has it, the doctors are sure.

She does not recognize me,
she stumbles and she mumbles.
She’s forgot everything that she used to know.
She is a different person, a new Grandma Lo.

The new grandma looks just like the old,
but in her mind it is different.
She may not be the Grandma I love and know,
but she will always be my Grandma Lo.


Source:
Meeting My New Grandma, Aging Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/family/poetry.asp?poem=19446#ixzz1ITFvbnix

Chapters of Interest

Taken from Social Gerontology:

Chapter 2: Aging in Other Countries and Across Cultures in the United States

Chapter 6: Personality and Mental Health in Old Age

Chapter 7: Love, Intimacy, and Sexuality in Old Age

Chapter 9: The Importance of Social Supports: Family, Friends, Neighbors, and Communities